Being a parent is hard. I can argue it is probably harder for our generation than it used to be. Why? Parents nowadays have so much more information and opinions to juggle than before. There is this great amount of pressure to be perfect & raise these super organic and genius children. The truth is, we all do our best. We all do what we feel is best for our kids, and there are a few things all parents do that no one likes to talk about! Because…we are all human!
1.Turning The TV On When You Need A Break
Guilty! Although we know an excess amount of television is not what is healthiest, turning a movie on for them so you can both sit back and relax is nothing to be ashamed of! I will admit, it is one of the few ways I can get some work done. Being a work at home mom can get difficult when you have a one year old tugging at your shirt all day. Our current favorites are; Moana, Boss Baby, and Zootopia.
2.Skipping Their Bath
You know those nights where you are just ready to put them into bed but you haven’t bathed them? You sit there and contemplate whether to bathe them or just get them to bed already. Finally, you decide you will just bathe them in the morning because right now a glass of wine and catching up on This Is Us is the only thing you want to do. Feel no shame mama-bathing them too much and overusing soaps can actually cause their skin to become irritated. Take a break and catch up on that episode you missed out on!
3.You Give Your Kids Your Phone Or Tablet When Out
Some times it’s all that works. A fun Target run or errand run can go sour when your kids decide they are done with your shenanigans! Then it begins…THE MELTDOWN! So what do you do? Let them scream? Let them cry? Heck no because we aren’t done running errands! I find the library of movies on my phone and hand it over. Only then can we return back to the calm and relaxing ways that Target runs should be.
4.You Feed Your Baby Jarred Food
GASP! You gave your baby a jar of baby food? Was it organic? Organic shmorganic! We aim to give our kids the best always. But, you are no less of a parent for giving them a jar of food than the parent who home makes their baby’s food. Do what makes you stress-free! Happy mama=happy baby!
5.You Leave Your Kids In PJs All Day
Some days I get her dressed by the time we are dropping Zoey off at school. Other days I let her nap and we are rushing to pick up Zoey…and she is still in pajamas! Do they notice? No. Do they care? No. Do you? You shouldn’t! They are kids and when they are tiny their clothes can look like pjs haha!
6.YOU Stay In PJs All Day
You are so busy with your day then you turn and see your clock says 1:30pm! EEK! And you are still in PJs…yup been there too! I live in yoga pants for a reason! Comfort is key & motherhood is hard so make it comfy! No shame mama!
7.YOU Skip A Shower
Whether you have an older child, a toddler, or a newborn-finding time to shower while parenting is hard. I learned to make dry shampoo and deodorant my best friends! As long as they are fed who cares if you didn’t get a shower in. Those kids are happy and taken care of!
Being a parent is hard as it is. With all this parent shaming and these social media standards it can be even more stressful. Don’t worry mama, behind those closed doors only they know what they do. Worry about yourself. Worry about keeping yourself happy, whatever that means for you. Ultimately what matters is whether your family is happy and healthy, the rest of it are small details.
If you have anything else to add leave a comment below <3
Pajamas are life! Kids are tough to raise and I could never judge a mom for doing the best she can! Thanks for your honesty!
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yes they are! =)
I know this is definitely 7 things I have done as a parent, you are so right. We really should talk about the ‘real’ side to parenting more!
Raising my hand. I’m so guilty to all of this.
yes! youre not alone mama!
I am relating to this sooo much today. I have a 2.5 year old and 4 month old. It’s 1:35pm and I haven’t showered, brushed my teeth, or gotten dressed. It’s like you just wrote about my life lol 😂
lol! its totally true!!!!!! its being a mom!!!! lol im right there with you girl!
Guilty to all and not mad about it. Parents have gotta do what they need to in order to make it through the day sometimes!
yes!!! 100% agree with this!!!
Oh man. I’m guilty on all accounts. I did this with my kids when they were young. You just can’t be super mom all the time.
completely agree!
I have a serious love/hate relationship with screen time for my children. I think I know I’m easily addicted to it, so I don’t want my kids to be, so I’m ridiculously anal about them only getting so much in a day, and I kick myself for when I give them more than these time frames. It really doesn’t matter that much in the long scheme of things though!
Anyway… rant about myself over. Thanks for sharing the realities of life! haha
haha! glad you were able to rant and vent on here! I encourage it ALWAYS!!!! i totally understand. half the time its like here please i need peace and the other its no im being horrible. either way we do what we can <3
Great stuff mama! I have a 19mth old and a husband that works 7 days a week on a horse farm so I spend alot of time in the kitchen cooking and washing everyone’s laundry. I confess there’s been a few times when I’m so exhausted I’ve tossed a microwavable mac n’ cheese in for a minute and pour myself a glass of wine.
Love this! Guilty of every single one of these!
arent we all?!?!?!?!
I can completely relate to all of these things!! I am a new mom with an 8 month old, and it really is the hardest yet best thing I’ve ever done. I try to do the best I can while working full time, and I admit it’s hard to not turn on the tv after a hard day at work. (We love Moana too!) Lol I get a lot of pressure from family that we shouldn’t have screens on at all before age 2, but in reality, it’s just not realistic. And you’re right, you do the best you can and that should always be enough. Thanks for posting this! 🙂
Glad you could find something to relate to! =) youre not alone mama
I aim for 3 showers a week. I have a 1 month old and a 3 year old. I don’t always meet my goal… 😳
Oh mama power to you!
Wait…we aren’t supposed to admit that we do these things? Oops.
hahahaha!
I know these all too well! My latest shameful act to admit to is that now my 7 yr old is at school all day Monday-Friday, and my 2yr old is at childcare Tuesday’s and Thursday’s, I should be making the house perfect, baking cookies and bread, and creating perfectly well balanced organic meals when they aren’t here. Instead I find myself binge watching boxsets and swearing at my phone for lying to me when I suddenly find myself with 10 minutes to school pick up!
dont be ashamed mama, we all need a break!
My kids are 24 and 21 now and I can say I did all that. They were both very active so skipping baths almost never happened. One time I was dying for a shower so I left 9month old with 3 year old. Got out of the shower to find them covered in colored markers. I was gone 5 minutes. “We monsters!”
hahahaha! that is such a cute story!there have been times where its mid day and im wondering if i showered yet or not!
of course!!! yes to all of them…:)
Ha ha yes! Guilty of them – some time or other have done them. It is okay I guess.
I do most of these, and absolutely don’t have a problem talking about them. No shame in my mom game!
Sometimes moms just need to relax! There shouldn’t be so much judgement from the outside world if the child has a tablet at the table or similar, they have no idea what the kids did for the rest of the day and the parents need to get out every once in a while!
i complete agree. there is so much judgement out there! we just need to be more loving!
Not trying to throw any shade, but I can’t relate. I have a 2 year old and 1 year old and I have never done any of these. I think of myself as a pretty chill mom, both with my kids and myself. Go figure.
That is awesome. You are a very lucky mama.
I’ve done all of these and some…surprised you didn’t have teeth brushing on there…although very rare because I believe dental health is very important for everyone there have been those few times where the teeth brushing went out the window along with the bath…lol
that is so true! lol i have to remember to do it ASAP or else….i forget too lol
Wow! I am afraid to admit this that I am guilty of everything listed here one time or another! LOL. Oh, the joys of motherhood! I am also guilty of watching kids cartoons so that my kids stay happy and don’t fight with each other.
hahaha yes! it happens to us all
haha yes! I was one of those girls who was like “my kids will never use a tablet when we’re out for dinner!” HAHA turns out I was wrong and I do indeed enjoy eating a hot meal while out.
lol same! i swore i would not but here we are lol